Soulmate Skills

After Jim’s transporting insemination of me, I was floating.  And exhausted.  So, we headed off to our rooms together.  Yes, we were leaving the warm glow of that firelit lodge.  But I didn’t feel the clear, cold night air.  I was warmed from within by Jim’s strength.  When we got to the top of the path, we paused.  Then he did it.  Jim took my face in his hands and slowly, and so tenderly kissed me.  I had never been kissed like that before.  That kiss spoke volumes–his cherishing of me, his caring attitude toward me, his honoring of my need to be romantically connected with.  He poured the essence of masculine love and tenderness into that kiss.  And with that a bond was formed, from which there was no turning back.  (For more on the importance of that first kiss, go to http://intro2psych.wordpress.com/2008/02/13/the-importance-of-a-kiss/)

“Our meeting is having a profound effect on us.  We have, it seems, taken a quantum leap into a new way of being.  It was just a sort of orientation session, and all we did was talk about our deepest concerns and then shared our love, but the ripples from that are still spreading through our lives; it was a big bang emotionally speaking.”  I’m quoting Jim’s letter to me of February 6, 1989, one month after our first meeting.  This is on my mind, because of a great article by Rebecca Webber in the September 2010 issue of Psychology Today.  It’s titled “Big Moments” and talks about those Aha! moments; peak experiences in our lives.  As Jim and I read it, we reaffirmed that meeting each other at our doctoral colloquium was a perfect example of one such peak experience.  Webber quotes Jeffrey Kottler, psychologist, on the impact of such moments:  “Their sense of who they were and what their place was in the universe had fundamentally shifted.”  When we read that, we both said, “Yes!”  Like us, when you find your soulmate, it will be a peak experience.  In fact, it will be a quantum leap in your life.