Soulmate Skills

Giving the benefit of the doubt.  Seeing it from their perspective.  Softening your heart.  All of these form an attitude of good will toward your partner.  They’re in contrast to suspiciousness, demonizing, and hardening your heart.  Choosing the latter is a temptation when we’re hurting or angry.  It is a choice.  And what we choose is what we get.  Choose good will today.  And if you’re soulmate questing, choose a partner who values good will as much as you do.

Demonizing.  That’s seeing your partner as a bad person.  Someone with evil intent toward you.  You end up holding a grudge against such an awful person.  And then you harden your heart.  But you know what?  No one is a bad person.  They’re just humans with stuff.  Better to ask them to work on their stuff.  Get to the root of what’s driving their behavior.  Then you both can grow.  And your relationship will be cared for.  For an interesting article on “What Pets Can Teach Us about Marriage” go to http://well.blogs.nytimes,com/2010/06/02/what-pets-can-teach-us-about-marriage/