Jim & Kathryn’s Soulmate Thought for the Day–What Do You Say after You Say, “I’m Sorry”
Posted in Uncategorized on July 31st, 2011 by Kathryn“We say, ‘I’m sorry,’” she told me. “But it’s getting old. Because nothing changes. We just hurt each other again. So my question is, what do you say after you say, ‘I’m sorry’?” I loved her question and felt her pain. No one taught us how to do relationships. And often our models (e.g., our parents and other relatives) had no clue how to relate intimately either. So, I’m reaching into Jim’s and my treasure trove of things we learned for crafting intimate relationships and answering her question. It was featured in my KLFY TV 10 Sunday morning segment of Passe Partout, “Dr. Kathryn Elliott: On Relationships.” In case you missed the answer this morning, here is the heart of it. Say 5 words, “That was just my stuff.” Then bottom line it: “Bottom line is I love you and I think you’re a good person.” Say these simple words, and you’ll be on your way to reconnection and closeness.
